Friday, April 9, 2010


For this week's ask Beth, I'm cheating just a bit! One of my personal inspirations, Chelsea Fuss over at Frolic Blog, asked me to share some of my top tips when helping couples to design their wedding, and I thought you just MIGHT be interested in hearing the answer too. You can see the full, in color version over at Project Wedding!


1. Do What You Love
Forget everything you've ever heard about having to have a set color scheme, crisp white linens, classic tuxedos and so on. When designing your wedding, think about what you really love and find a way to pull it together. It doesn't have to "match" it just has to reflect your style. If you are clean and modern, go that direction. If you are a classic beauty, let that inspire your day. If you are eclectic in your every day life, then why would your wedding be any different?

2. Consider Approachability above Over-the-Top
The most successful weddings are not necessarily the most expensive. Instead they are the ones that create a comfortable atmosphere where guests can relax and enjoy. I like to throw in a few simple but unexpected details to remind guests that they are not at their every day wedding.

3. Go Residential

When thinking about comfort, what comes to mind? For me and many of my clients, it's our homes. Adding touches throughout your event that remind people of being at home such as couches, rugs and dressers is not only a great design addition but also a good way to set the tone for your guests.

4. Make Your Own Rules

Don't be confined by tradition and etiquette unless that's who you are as a couple. Breaking the rules a bit can not only be fun, but also give your guests a new experience. A great example is the "tattoo parlor" that was at one of our recent events. The couple was a little edgy and this was the perfect favor and activity for their style.

5. Be the Life of the Party

If you want to have a wedding where guests dance into the wee hours of the night, then you must dance until the wee hours of the night. If you want a low-key dinner party with great conversation, then start talking. Simply put, guests are there to celebrate you and will follow your lead in how to act at your wedding day.

5 comments:

Amberdawn said...

I've got the "residential rule" down pat. I'm planning to rent a vacation home for my wedding ceremony and reception :) I'm hoping to hold the ceremony in the garden, but if the weather doesn't work for us we'll be taking it inside!

chelsea said...

Thanks again!! These tips are so great!

willozza123 said...

I just found your blog via Style Me Pretty blog and I love your style of writing and the advice that you give. It's so overwhelming when so many blogs feature so many amazing weddings. I’m having a dilemma about what colour theme to use and trying to think of how to match everything by colour. I have booked my reception. Do you think that I have to coordinate my colour theme to the reception? Also, what if I don’t go with a colour theme and just pick the things that I like? Do you think that would work or would it look too messy?

Thanks,
Lozza

Beth Helmstetter said...

Hi Lozza! Thanks for your comments! I personally rarely worry about having a color scheme unless I am working with a couple that really likes the idea. For the most part, I think color schemes tend to limit your creativity a bit and can feel a little more contrived then I personally enjoy. A good example of a wedding where we just took things the couple loved and pulled them together successfully would be the wedding of Zoe & Griff on my website. She didn't have a specific color scheme or really any preconceived rules we had to adhere to which allowed us to be more open and creative. Another sample to take note of would be the store, Anthropologie. They mix styles, colors, cultural elements, etc. and when it all comes together it's usually a beautiful thing. I would skip the color scheme if you're open to it and focus more on items that represent you. I doubt if you had to describe you and your fiancee as a couple, you would say, "oh, we are perfectly represented by the colors pink and green." :). Have fun and thanks for your comments!

willozza123 said...

Hi Beth,

Thank for your reply. It's very helpful.